I understand that communication is key in a working marriage. But what do you do when your husband won't talk to you? I have tried everything. I write notes to tell him what I'm feeling and try to get a response from him. He reads them sometimes, but not always. I try poetry, but he just tells me that he likes them and he knows they are about him. He says he likes to hear me sing, so I've even tried singing songs that fit and he just listens to my voice and ignores the words.
I am at my wit's end. I don't know what to do. I am afraid that this communication problem is going to result in an irreparable breach in our marriage. Right now, we could fix it. But it will take both of us. From what I see in his actions, he doesn't want to try. He seems comfortable where we are and doesn't seem to have any motivation to change the way the things are.
I really am at loss about what to do now. I love him so much that my chest fills up with a warm flush whenever I think about him or look at him. We use to be a really loving couple. We use to curl up on the couch and watch movies. We used to talk about everything, including our relationship. All that seems to have gone away though. I really wish we could get that back. Now the only time he curls up with me is if he's frisky. And that doesn't happen nearly as much as I would like it to.
It hurts so much that he has shut me out like this. I don't understand it. I just want us to be happy. We used to be. Why can't we still be happy?